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Planning the Wedding of Your Dreams

Planning your Phoenix wedding is an exciting experience especially when it’s a fairytale wedding. Fantasy weddings are probably one of the most popular themed weddings. Every single girl has dreamed for years of walking down the aisle to her Prince Charming in her stunning ball gown feeling like a real fairytale princess. It is a sight to behold and a pleasurable memory to relive in your wedding photography Phoenix. It is a long lived fantasy which will finally become a reality.

Fairytale wedding creates the atmosphere of royalty and romance. Let your imagination be your guide as you plan a fairytale wedding. There is absolutely no limit to the creative ideas you can incorporate in every aspect of the wedding. Here are a few ideas you can use to make that fantasy wedding seem like it came straight out from a fairytale book.

o A great idea is to arrive in the wedding ceremony in a carriage pulled by a white horse.
o When choosing for that perfect wedding dress, go for sophistication and glamour. Ball gowns complete with a petticoat will look absolutely beautiful. For a more full-out princess look, do not forget to wear a tiara, opera-length gloves and a floor length veil.
o The bride’s hair with look romantic in a half or full updo with cascading ringlets.
o The shoes should be strappy and sparkly or you can still opt for wearing glass slippers for a more princess-like effect.
o For the bridesmaids, choose dreamy dresses that match your color scheme.
o Black tuxedos for the groomsmen will look stunning next to the bridesmaids. For the groom to stand out and look more like a Prince Charming, a white tuxedo is worth considering.
o The invitation is an essential element in depicting the fantasy theme. It can feature elements like carriages, castles or glass slippers. But if you refer something more formal, choose elegant fonts and style for the wedding invitations.
o To complete the fairytale experience, book your ceremony and reception in a castle. If you do not have the access to a castle then a ballroom is close enough.
o Centerpieces for this type of wedding should be grand. Sparkling ice sculptures are perfect centerpieces that can create a dramatic effect. If you live in a warmer climate and ice sculptures are not an option, use candelabras or towering vases filled with fantasy floral arrangements.
o Classic choices for flowers arrangements are usually used in this type of wedding. Roses are the popular choice. The bride’s bouquet will typically be a hand tied bouquet of roses or a cascading style of lilies. Flowers and candles are essential in pulling off a fairytale look.
o Make a grand entrance at the reception by going down a spiral staircase or by using a spotlight. A romantic waltz for your first dance with your fiancé will definitely add a personal touch to the wedding.
o Do not forget to set the mood by your choice of music. Hire a harpist or a string quartet at least during the ceremony. Then later on, let the DJ play songs that will create a dreamy atmosphere.

Planning the Wedding of Your Dreams

They say money can’t buy love – and it also doesn’t necessarily have to buy the wedding of your dreams. On the contrary, you can get the wedding of your dreams even when you’re on a budget!

From the time they are born, little girls dream of their wedding day. They envision sparkling lights, a princess gown, a handsome groom and a giant party thrown in their honor. When the big day finally approaches, however, brides begin to realize that the wedding of their dreams might be out of reach financially – or so they think!

The truth is you don’t need tons of money to have the wedding of your dreams. A wedding is the first amazing adventure that you’ll take as a couple, and planning it will be wonderful – with or without a huge budget.

First and foremost, don’t hire a wedding planner. Sure, it will be nice to have someone coordinate your big day, but think about it – it’s your big day, not someone else’s! Why wouldn’t you want to have your hands in the dirt when it comes to planning your wedding?

Save yourself some money and do the planning yourself. Set a schedule of what you need to accomplish month by month and plan out how much each month will cost so that you don’t find yourself with tons of bills to pay, come wedding day. Consider doing just about everything yourself – and of course, with the help of your loving friends and family.

Consider having your wedding in your own backyard, or perhaps, in a park or on the beach. You can have it at your parent’s home, or even at your best friend’s apartment. Who says you need to rent somewhere to boogie down with your loved ones after the ceremony? Renting a place is an unnecessary expense, especially when you’re on a budget. Remember that your wedding is about the person you’re marrying, not about where you have it.

You can also save money when it comes to your wedding gown – consider going vintage, or even wearing and repurposing your mother’s old gown. Designer wedding gowns can cost thousands, and even more inexpensive gowns at bridal retail stores can run you upwards of $500. A vintage dress could cost $20. Online retailers like eBay and Etsy are great places to find vintage clothing.

Remember, this is your wedding day, and you don’t have to wear a big, frilly gown if you don’t want to. If a simple sheath that you saw at the thrift shop for $10 is calling your name, don’t be afraid to wear that on your big day.

Another way to save money is to do your own invitations. These days, you can create just about anything on your computer. Microsoft Word has a surprising amount of templates, or you can write your invites by hand and then make photocopies. If you’re good with Photoshop, you can craft something stunning.

Consider sending out an email instead of paper invites – you’ll save yourself money on stamps, and you’ll be saving the planet! E-vites are all the rage with parties these days, so why not capitalize on their popularity by applying them to your wedding day? This option is good for both big and small weddings and doesn’t cost you a dime!

Instead of hiring an expensive caterer on your big day, consider coming up with a low-key meal that your friends and family can pull together. Instead of a sit-down dinner, go for a buffet-style meal, where your guests can help themselves. This sort of dining situation will also save you money on waiters – an unnecessary expense, especially if your loved ones can cook!

The same goes for the alcohol – buy it in bulk at a big box retailer and have that bartender friend of yours mix up some drinks. Or, if you dare, go buffet style on that end as well, and let your loved ones mix up some liquid courage for themselves!

Some of the best wedding desserts come from couples that have thought outside of the box. Don’t assume that you need a traditional three-tiered wedding cake that will cost you hundreds of dollars. Maybe you love ice cream – why not set up an ice cream sundae stand for your guests?

Wedding and Not Involve the Bride In Major Decisions

Just recently I was reading about Oprah Winfrey’s new reality show coming up called “Don’t Tell the Bride”. Apparently she’s looking for brides to be who will agree to get married and allow their groom to plan the entire wedding without her knowledge or even a clue of one thing he plans ahead of time.

There will be eight couples chosen and these couples must sign an agreement that the bride will stay out of the entire planning and if she agrees they will receive $25,000 towards their wedding. This is an opportunity for couples in several different ways. Number one, they will get a free wedding and a $25,000 wedding is a nice amount of money and will purchase quite an elaborate wedding. Next, these couples will have the opportunity to be seen on Oprah’s reality TV show which will give them exposure before millions of people who are hooked on watching these types of programs.

These are a couple of really nice pro’s that should attract many couples to fill out the application and agree to participate. But are there any cons to this agreement for the couples themselves? Well let’s look at a couple of things that came to my mind.

It’s always been traditional for the bride to plan most all of the wedding including picking out her wedding dress and the dresses of her bridesmaids. Gee, she won’t even know who her maid of honor or brides maids will be until the wedding day. Also the bride usually chooses the colors they will wear, guess that will be a surprise.

Then there’s the selection of flowers. How many grooms know, without asking, what his bride likes when it comes to flowers? What about the music played and songs sung, can a groom do all this including knowing exactly who to invite without asking his bride? What if some important relative or friend is left out, how will that be handled for all eternity?

What if the groom selects a dress the bride actually hates? This actually happened to me many years ago when I was forced to select a dress I disliked over one I loved due to the influence of my step mother’s decision. I’ve never forgotten how I felt walking down the aisle in that distasteful dress.

Has Oprah thought about the repercussions of a marriage starting out with numerous disappointed brides when they show up on their wedding day and see colors they hate, dresses they loathe, guests who were never supposed to be invited and flowers they are allergic to that they must hold onto as their bouquet? Would his future mother-in-law be invited? What about food ordered from the caterer that the bride finds disgusting or at least something she never would have ordered?

How many couples are willing to place their marriage beginnings in the hands of someone who’s never been married? And if Oprah was planning on getting married would she allow her groom to plan her own wedding? Also, isn’t Oprah using this opportunity to bring her ratings up since she left her day time talk show to start her own television network?

We need to acknowledge that Oprah is a giver and is known for her generous heart. Let’s also remember that most CPA’s remind their rich clients that they must take advantage of numerous large write-offs or they will grace their money to the government instead. So, giving away $200,000 for eight couples to get married is really nice and it’s also a smart business move.

Planning the Wedding You Really Want

There are four simple secrets to planning a wedding without (a) losing
your sanity or (b) having your dreams stolen by the people around you.

o Eat the elephant one bite at a time.

o Stand strong, sister!

o Give yourself time.

o Hand over the reigns . . . at the END.

Eat the Elephant One Bite at a Time

Have you ever heard about how to eat an elephant? The answer is “One bite at a time.”

It’s the same with planning something as elephant-sized as your wedding. Even if your wedding is relatively small in terms of the
number of guests or the number of vendors, planning a wedding is
an elephant. There are many, many decisions you have to make.

Wedding task check lists make it clear that you don’t need to
find a florist or invitations first thing. Finding a venue and a
caterer are tasks that need to be addressed earlier on.

Even if flowers and invitations are crucial pieces of your
wedding dreams, don’t worry about them until it’s time. Don’t
try to jam the entire elephant into your mouth at once.

Stand Strong, Sister!

Do you want the wedding of YOUR dreams? Or are you relatively
happy if you get half the wedding that you want and half the
wedding that other people think you should want?

If it’s the latter, that’ll be no problem. Other people are more
than willing to take over your wedding. You don’t have to put
any effort into getting people to bully you around to creating
the wedding of their dreams.

It’s a little more effort (although about 90% of it is purely
psychological effort) to be sure that you get the wedding of YOUR
dreams.

There are essentially two types of people who will try to take
over your wedding:

o Family members (including soon-to-be in-laws)

o Vendors

Handling these two types of “controllers” takes different approaches.

Vendors are with you just for this wedding. Family you have to
live with for the rest of your life!

Where do your priorities lie in managing these two types of
controllers?

With professional vendors, your top priority may be getting what
you want, at the price you’ve negotiated, and it really doesn’t
matter if you have to step on a few toes to get it. You’ll be
polite and professional when dealing with vendors, but you must
not be a push-over.

With family, your priority may lie with maintaining loving
relationships for a lifetime. You should be no more of a
pushover with family than with other vendors, but you SHOULD make
sure to hear their side of any issues that arise and to
continually emphasize (both with your words and
with your actions) your gratitude for this loving effort they’re
putting forth for your very special day.

A third possible type of controller is a combination of the other
two:

o friends or family providing services for your wedding.

This can be a little trickier, because you’re both dealing with
them as a vendor and planning to have a relationship with them
for the rest of your life. This requires a balance of the
strategies used with family members and the strategies used with
vendors.

You’ll need to find the right balance between treating a
particular person as a vendor who is a friend/family member vs. a
friend/family member who is doing you a favor by providing
something you’d otherwise get from a vendor.

Give Yourself Time

To have the most flexibility, you should start your wedding
planning anywhere from a year to eighteen months before you’d
like to actually get married.

Don’t panic! People have successfully pulled together weddings
with a few weeks or even a few days of planning. The 12-18 month
suggestion is just that, a suggestion. It’s based on the idea
that spreading the tasks out over time will cause you less
stress.

A longer timetable also allows for those chunks of time when
you’re lying on your couch thinking, “I could not care less if I
had a wedding!”

But, for those who find the last minute approach preferable (or
necessary), timetables can be completely ignored.

If you’re planning your wedding under a tight timeline,
controlling your own brain is one of the most important things
you can do. If you panic, you’ll not only make yourself miserable
at the time of panic, you’ll be more likely to ruin your wedding.

Even if you’re working under a tight timeline, plan in rest
periods. You need to take a couple days (or at least a few hours)
here or there where you don’t work on your wedding. Spend this
time just having fun with your beloved and remembering why you
wanted to marry him in the first place. Or spend the time by
yourself, resting and doing things you enjoy (other than wedding
planning).

When you’re working on your wedding, work on it, concentrate and
move forward. When you’re not working on it, put it from your
mind and remember that your wedding is but one day in the
wonderful life you have ahead. Don’t screw up the life just to
have the wedding.

Hand Over the Reigns . . . At the END

Even if you hire a wedding planner, don’t completely hand over
the reigns early on. Not if you want to achieve the wedding of
YOUR dreams.

But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding,
the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding
and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s
time to stop with the planning and start with the living.

Unfortunately, the planning won’t actually be finished a week or
two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you
have to do to stop others from taking over your dream wedding
have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them
have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding.

But, repeat after me: “I don’t want to be planning my wedding on
my wedding day.”

You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding.
And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days
or even a couple weeks before your wedding, the better off you’ll
be.

To hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time
comes down to (a) being prepared to tell others exactly what you
want and (b) handing the reigns to the right person/people.

One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t
know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b).
If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or
wimpy friends and family, you’ll need to hire someone to hand the
reigns off to. It’s critical to be able to hand off the reigns
and live your wedding day!

Planning the Wedding Budget

When beginning to plan your wedding, sit down with your fiance and talk about the wedding you want and the wedding of your dreams. Your wedding should be able to relate to your friends and relatives, to who you are and what you are becoming. Next after deciding on some general parameters you will want to have a plan that will help you best determine to track costs.

Take a planner and on the first page write down everything that you will need, for your dream wedding. For example the florist, photographer, cake, reception sites, wedding consultant, ceremony and any other vendors. Now after you have put down everything that you will need for your dream wedding on the next page title that page your realistic wedding. Now on the realistic wedding page list everything that you will need and the amounts for each. For example start with the florist and put down the cost of the floral centerpieces, bouquet etc.Now this is for the realistic wedding only. Remember the first page is your dream wedding. Also for the realistic wedding make a list of the amount money needed to feed your guests. When you are finished and after you have done your homework and compared the dream wedding verses the realistic wedding you will then have a realistic budget for your entire wedding.

Now sit down with your finance and take a real hard look at what your wedding will cost. Now the both of you will have an idea with what you are really working with for your budget. With the right planning you may be able to cut costs and save in different areas. For example if you decide to have a buffet brunch your cost on food would go down considerable. If your choose flowers that are in season this would help lower the costs of your flowers. Remember planning is the key for any wedding and planning early.